Harmony - Part 2

Recently on EHarmony.com, I was asked by another “match” that if I could have one superpower what would it be. The answer I sent to her was something about being able to stop time because there are so many great moments that pass us by so quickly, it would be nice to freeze time and actually enjoy the moment a little longer. If you were to ask me that same question today, I’d give a completely different answer. There’s a chick-flick out there called “What Women Want” and for those of you who haven’t seen it, it’s basically about how Mel Gibson accidentally electrocutes himself and suddenly has the power to hear what women are thinking. That’s superpower that I want. Forget telepathy, forget walking thru walls, forget wolverine’s claws. I just want to know what the hell women are thinking!

As you may recall we last left off where Harmony had asked me out on a second date. SHE asked ME. We were going to her friends house that Saturday for a wine & cheese tasting. When she told me about this event, I was informed by Jane Goodall that this meant Harmony wanted to test me with her friends. This was a good thing, it meant she liked me and was looking to make the next step. I was fairly excited but nervous to meet Harmony’s friends but most of all I was just happy that I was going to see her again. Also, her asking me out confirmed that she enjoyed spending time with me just as much as I did with her.

So the date was set. Now this was on Sunday. The next day, around 6pm, I receive a text from Harmony just asking how my day was. I write her back and we continued text-chatting for a few hours. We just went back and forth over various subjects, everything seemed great. On Tuesday, around 6pm once again, she texted me asking how my day was. At the time I was next to my computer so I jumped onto Gmail chat and we continued talking for a few hours. Now remember, she asked ME out on Sunday. SHE Facebook friend requested ME. SHE contacted ME and was anxious to talk on both Monday and Tuesday...

...then came Wednesday. I don’t hear from her all day, which is no problem at all, I figure she wants me to now take the initiative and text her. So I wait a little while longer than she had and text her about 8pm. She gets back to me about 9:30pm saying she was out with friends for dinner and drinks. We talked for a half an hour and then she was off to bed. From what she told me, she had a fun night, everything was cool.....

...Thursday. Again, no word from Harmony all day. Again, it’s cool with me, she was the one who started us talking everyday, remember Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday SHE texted ME, I was only following her lead. This time I wait until 9pm to text her. Her response is simply “I’m online if you want to chat.” Okay, no problem, I go online and we talk for about an hour. Her responses have become short. Almost stern. I can tell through the computer that she doesn’t really want to talk. So no worries, I tell her I’m going to go write for a little and say goodnight, but before I sign out, she sends me a message saying she’s feeling a little sick but says she should be feeling better by Saturday....

I know the moment she says this that she’s planting a seed. She’s preparing me for her canceling our second date. I can feel it inside. But hey, maybe I’m overreacting, maybe everything will be fine.

Friday. Nothing. Not a word from her all day. I decide not to text her, the ball is in her court, she can make the next move. 9pm comes... nothing.... 10pm comes... nothing. Oh well, she did say she was sick so maybe she went to bed early. I play it off like everything’s going to be fine, I go to bed excited and antsy to see her the next day...

Saturday. 10:46am. Text. From Harmony. Guess what? She’s sick. Lost her voice. Not going to make it tonight. We have to “reschedule” in her words. It's okay, I kind of saw this coming. She planted the seed on Thursday so that when she said she was too sick on Saturday, she had “proof” because she’d told me she was starting to feel sick two days earlier. She had been prepping her alibi. I’m disappointed but what can I do? I can’t really be mad at her, she might actually be sick. I offer to bring her some soup and a movie if she’d like, but Harmony tells me she just wants me to go out and have fun with my friends. So I do. I went out with my friends and had a good time just relaxing. Throughout the night, I keep getting asked “when’s your date coming over?” Each time I have to explain that she’s sick... some believe it... some don’t... I’m beginning to doubt it myself. But I stay positive and send her a text around 9pm just asking how she’s feeling. She says she’s taken some medicine and asks how my night is going. We chit-chat over a few texts before she informs me that the meds are making her drowsy and she’s heading off to bed. I go back to hanging with my friends, hoping that I’ll be able to see Harmony the next day if she’s feeling better.

Sunday. I wake to find this email in my inbox:

Hey Charlie Brown,
I hope you have had a nice weekend. I have spent most of it on the couch, which has actually felt really good. I know we've been messaging a lot , and I really enjoy chatting with you. I also had a good time hanging out with you. My only concern is that I don't know if I'm in a good place to be dating anyone mostly because I am going to be so unavailable. We are too far away from each other to hang out during the week, and I am gone the next 3 weekends. If you want to, I would like to stay in touch, and maybe later this summer we can see if it gets easier to hang out. Let me know what you think.
-Harmony

Now, I knew she was going out of town the next three weekends, we had discussed it before and I was really excited for her. But when she says she thinks we’re too far apart to get together during the week is bullshit. I was just flabbergasted by this entire email. I mean, what the f@ck!?? Seriously. WHAT. THE. F@CK!? SHE had asked ME out on the second date. SHE sent me an insane amount of texts over the three days after our first date. SHE Facebook friend requested ME. SHE was constantly wanting to talk to ME! What the hell changed? What happened between Tuesday and Wednesday that her attitude flipped so quickly? What had I done wrong? Did I say something? Was I not interesting enough? Not funny enough? It’s hard to tell if someone really "laughs-out-loud" when they type “LOL” but she typed LOL a LOT! So what the hell happened? I just don’t understand. I want someone to tell me just what the hell she is thinking? Why ask me out again just to blow it off and then say she needs to walk away.

I sent her a quick reply back, being nice, and tell her I “understand” although I clearly don’t have any clue what the f@ck she’s talking about. I tell her the ball is in her court and leave it at that. I’m not going to contact her again, I’m not going to check her facebook updates, I won’t make any effort to see this girl again. I’m done. Which sucks because I really liked her. My heart isn’t broken or anything because my heart wasn’t really in it yet, we’d only had one date but talked a LOT. I’m not sad, just disappointed... and confused. This situation will definitely be with me when I start dating someone new. I can no longer trust a woman when she asks me for a second date. I don’t know if I can trust anything a woman says. I don’t know what they’re thinking!

I need to know what goes through a woman’s mind. This is a riddle I will obviously never solve, but maybe, just maybe, I can find some clues as I continue my quest to date again after a 10 year absence.

Only time will tell....