To begin...

I am 28 and I am divorced.

I never thought I would ever be in this position. When you get married you believe you will be with that person for the rest of your life. Obviously. I don't know too many people who said "I'm going to get married for a few years and give it a shot, then divorce and head back out there."

Now I'm "that" guy. I'm the divorced one. In my group of friends that's who I will be known as now. I will have that stigma for the rest of my life. When I date a new girl, I'll have to have the "divorced" talk where I explain "what happened." And what did happen? That's the strange thing, there was no real inciting incident. No one cheated. No one really pissed the other off. It was just... slow and drawn out. From the beginning of my marriage it was rocky to say the least. I was high school sweethearts with the girl I ended up marrying. We dated for 5 years and then were married for 5 years. From the beginning we had problems but what married couple didn't? So we tried to fight through it and we stayed together. But how long can you fight a loosing battle? How long do you stay miserable because you just want to stay married? Recently we decided we'd spent enough of our lives unhappy and now it was time to pull the plug. It hasn't been easy. It's hard letting go. I was pretty tortured for quite a while. But here's the thing.... I didn't want my wife back... I was just scared to be alone. I think that's why we hang on as strong as we do, we're scared we won't be able to find that magic again....

I had been with the same person for the past 10 years! Since we met in high school, I never really dated out in the real world. I don't know where to meet women, or what to say to them? I mean, do pickup lines really work??

And thus is the creation of this blog.

Having been out of the dating scene pretty much my entire life, I don't even know where to start. I begin my journey now out into the single world. I will write my exploits on this blog for everyone to share in. My only hope is to find people who can relate to what I'm going through.

I am divorced by 30.